In asking this question I am referring to how good of a time you had and mainly how well you did with the females. Including last night I have gone out a total of 4 nights so far this year. Two of them were extremely lame and the other two were successful. The beauty of writing this is to reflect on what happened so you can learn from your mistakes. What mistakes were made in the nights that were lame and what did you do that made the other nights a success. If you can repeat what caused the successes then in theory you can make every night of going out a success. I used to think if I didn’t get a SNL then the night was not a success. I now know that is far from the actual truth. I no longer even want a SNL. If I pull a girl back and fuck her the same night I met her that really doesn’t say much. To me it only means two things. Either your game is so freaking good that you can do this. Or this girl is a big slut and you don’t want your dick anywhere near her. The latter is most likely the case. The girl you pull back the same night from the bar has probably done this numerous times and is used up. I would way rather meet a girl who throws up some crazy resistance.
So Friday night we go out to ZEN. It is a bar built into a shopping center in the middle of Austin Ranch. Austin Ranch is a master planned community with a ton of apartments within walking distance. As you can imagine there are many locals at this place which is fine since the average age of the apartment dwellers is in the mid/late 20’s. The people who go here probably frequent the place several times a month on average. So me and two friends head over there and are meeting another couple friends there. I always like when there are multiple people going out. It just seems to either build social proof and at least in my head it does.(Bam right off the bat I have a higher level of confidence. This is one of those things that I am reflecting on to always have a good evening.) Before we go out we pregame at my place. We each have two drinks before we go. We pour them strong and each of us has a slight buzz going on. Before we even walk into the place we talk with a 3 set walking in. My friends are yelling and they yell back. I walk up to them and say NO Yelling. Two of the girls are nothing great but one is pretty good looking. I end up number closing the good looking one later on in the venue. Her friends are dancing and she is sitting down in a tall chair. I walk up to her grab her hand and lift her out of her chair. I make her start dancing and having a good time. I have no idea what else I said but she puts her number in my phone. I will say I make a mistake here in my opinion. After I get her number I go back and join my friends. I should of stayed and hung out with her for a while and maybe get to know her friends and her some more. I think the reason I bounced is because I couldn’t hear anything she was saying. I don’t even understand how it was a successful set I guess she had super sonic hearing or something. I ended up calling her on Wednesday of the next week and talked for about 10 minutes. I was pretty shocked it was a legit number. She seemed pretty fun on the phone so I will probably call her again next week. One thing I will point out here. I almost didn’t call this girl. I would go back and forth saying hrmm I really didn’t talk to her that much. I bounced right after I got the number. There is no way she will answer. I don’t wanna leave some gay ass message. Basically I just kept making up excuses why I shouldn’t call. The moral of the story is this. If you are going to be balsy enough to open up a girl who is easily one of the best looking in the joint. Be successful in getting her number. You better at least call the number and attempt to speak with her. Otherwise what is the freaking point? Alright so I just wrote all that for my own benefit. I will no doubt read this again someday and just putting it in writing kind of holds me to this. So what made me finally give in and quit being a puss about calling her? I was driving down the street to help a friend out. As I was driving I just said to myself don’t have regrets. As you can remember in an earlier post I talked about regrets. This is one of those things I don’t want to beat myself up over. I plan on getting many phone numbers in the future. If I start bitching out now I will no doubt bitch out many times in the future and that will certainly be a waste. What happens when I land a super hotties number and I bitch out on calling that. That could have been my future wife for all I know.
So anyways back to the night. We walk in after talking to these girls for like 2 seconds and approach the bar. I kinda take the lead and order us drinks. We do a round of shots and get a drink. As we are at the bar a girl bumps into me. She is with a group of about 6 people. I give her shit about bumping into me and the set opens. I then give another girl shit about being a pro soccer player. I think she said she was a trainer or something and I was like nah you a pro soccer player. Bounced from that set and my buddy somehow opens two girls who are pretty good looking. One is alright but the other is pretty much my type. Brunette with a rocking body. I have this weird mindset and I will be the first to admit it is fucked up. My mindset is hrmm this girl is really hot do I really think I can get her? Then I will bounce back to hell yes I can get this girl I’m the fucking prize here. Always be in the latter state of mind. It is hard to do but you just have to make yourself think this way. Let me tell you the rest of the night I felt this way and I am pretty much certain I could have gotten any girl in this place. I also like the way I handled myself with her. In the past I would give in to a girl I thought was hot. I would lean in to talk to her. Say stupid shit to appease her. Well not anymore. She would ask me where I live. My answer was so fucking stupid. I live in Castle Grayskull. Not sure if she heard me but she later asked me again. All I said then was I already told you. As we were talking I set my finished drink down on a table that had 6 girls sitting there. One of the girls got super pissed and took my drink and set it on the bar behind her. I just sat there laughing I mean geeze you have a really big table what is the problem. So then a little while later I sit another empty drink down on their table. Guess what the girl freaks out again and mumbles some shit. She is on the other side of the table but there is a blonde girl close to me. I start talking to her saying is your friend always so protective of the tables. This opens her up right way. She compliments me on my shirt and says she would of noticed me if I just sat my drink down on the bar. She seemed like a really nice girl but sorry my standards are going up. If it was a few weeks again I would have gamed her more and I’m sure it would have been an easy lay. I eject from her and start talking to the two good looking brunettes again. Since this was right next to them I’m sure they saw the whole thing and that probably just made me look that much better. For the rest of the night I kinda bounce back and forth from the two brunettes to the other side of the bar to hang with some other friends. As I am walking by I notice another brunette checking me out. I mean crazy long eye contact almost an invitation to say hello. I just smile and keep walking. I later open her up after some more eye contact. Her cockblocking friend says she is married. Hrmm ok she might be married but her eyes said otherwise. No problem back to my friends to hang for a bit. After hanging with them is when I walked up to the hottie blonde from the entrance and number close her. I walk back over to the brunettes and on the way open another two set. Hispanic girl is way into me flirting like crazy. It was fun but she just didn’t measure up. At this point brunettes leave and hottie brunette shakes my hand and is really saying a nice goodbye. Why the fuck was I such a dumbass with her. All my friends couldn’t believe I didn’t number close her. I am thinking the same damn thing.
In the short time I have been going out I can remember about 4 girls that I found super attractive that I have opened. All of these opening were successful. There was definitely attraction from both parties. For some reason I have failed in achieving success with these girls. As of right now I know for a fact it is from not staying in the set long enough. I know for a fact I get intimidated. I feel like I won’t be able to maintain a good conversation. I know for a fact my entire game changes with these girls. I know for a fact my game should change a little with these girls. Well actually I don’t know for a fact my game should change with girls that I find super attractive. I don’t know this because I haven’t gotten far enough with them to know this. Ways in which I start making out with a girl at the bar that has worked countless times I haven’t even attempted with these girls. What I need to do is make sure the next time I an successful at opening a super hot girl I maintain the conversation and build rapport just like I would with any other less attractive girls. In addition I need to make sure my body language is correct, I am not leaning in, and I am the fucking prize.
So back to the night it’s getting late and soccer girl starts talking to me. Blah blah whatever I say we should go back to her place. She says no I live with my brother. Umm ok we should go back to my place. She agrees. My friend already has my keys to my car. I always leave the house with an extra key or garage opener incase I leave with a girl. I thought my friends knew I was leaving so we bounced and went back to my place. We get there and start watching TV. My friend drops my car off and the other stops by to pick him up. At this point I am so freaking tired. I don’t give two shits about doing anything with this girl. I have had 9 hours of sleep in the past two days. I say alright lets go to bed. She follows and I offer her some shorts. She takes her clothes off and throws the shorts on and we go to bed. We make out a little and she throws up some LMR. I am almost certain I could have blown through this if I really wanted to. I roll over and freeze her out and pass the fuck out hahahhaha.
So that was the evening. This to me was a successful evening. I feel like I could have gotten any girl in the place. This may very well be my own reality and not the truth. I number closed two girls and pulled one back to my place. I feel like I could have for sure gotten three other numbers in the place. I actually at this point wish I would have just for the fun of it and the experience.