Well I have told a few people of my new plans. I figured I should go ahead and write them down. If I remember correctly I have done this once before. I have scraped my game and started over. I will however say you are never going to scrap your entire game. That would just be impossible. Unless of course you have no game whatsoever then I guess it would be possible to truly start over.
So why the fuck would I change? Sure I have had success with my currently method of game. So much so that I could stick with what I am currently doing at get laid at a minimum once a month by a new girl. When you really sit back and look at this though that is not really saying much. If you go out 8 times a month you should see that kind of success if you are ambitious and have decent game.
Now sure I will sit here and tell you that I want to be the best. I want to see what game can really do for someone. I do want this however I don’t see myself putting in the effort that that would entail. What I do want though is to increase my quality of women I get. I feel that I already get a decent quality of girl. And in truth I actually have been going after quality lately instead of quantity.
So let me outline my current game:
For the most part I am an asshole. I got into the habit of being an asshole to entertain myself. I actually hate going to bars and find them repulsive. If I don’t get two or three sheets to the wind while I am in a bar I would rather be any other place in the world. I rely heavily on my friends doing stupid shit that I find humorous. When they start slacking in this department I typically rely on myself to keep me entertained. This results in me being a huge dick head. I then found out that this for whatever crazy reason started attracting a shit load of girls. So naturally since it was fun and was successful for me I stuck with it.
I either build, create, or achieve attraction super fast. I’m sure it comes down to many different things I do but usually I just assume attraction. In at least 90% of my sets I truly believe attraction is already there from the get go. But even with that being the case I can’t stop being a dick. I do stupid ass shit that just pisses the girls off so much that they just bounce. This is freaking stupid on my part and completely unnecessary. Last Saturday was the final nail in the coffin for me. IMO the hottest girl in the joint came up and opened me. After some banter back and forth I popped her hat and called it gay. Well she turned right around and walked off.
I run the shortest sets in the world and number close as fast as possible. This is another thing that has garnered me a ton of success. Even with as much success as I have seen I know I lose some number closes. Meaning I number close the girl but it doesn’t go anywhere in the following days. See the problem is I never build COMFORT. I never give the girl a chance to get to know me.
I almost never make them qualify themselves to me. If I do it is purely subconscious. This is a huge mistake. You get a girl to start qualifying herself to you and you might as well wrap her up.
Alright so here is how I want my new game to play out:
For the most part I am going to enter sets still assuming attraction. Let’s say for sake of argument I have the girl 75% hooked just by being me. I know that sounds insanely cocky but well…hey I have worked on a ton of shit since I got into the game. So now the girl is already hooked from the get go. With that said why the fuck would I be a dick to her? That has got to be the worst thing I could possibly do. Instead how about I be nice to her. I am not saying bend over backwards or anything like that but a neg certainly isn’t required. Any stupid little antic isn’t required. I can just be myself and carry on a normal conversation.
Alright so maybe with this new set up I won’t be building attraction quite as fast. I am ok with that. What this now requires is for me to actually run a decent set. By my estimation a minimum of 10 minutes is necessary. Anything less and I don’t think the set will truly be hooked. I know 10 minutes might sound like such a short time. It is. But for me it is actually a very long time period. I would say on average most of my sets last 5 minutes. So right off the bat I need to figure out how to carry on a conversation with this girl. I have this huge stigma of carrying on a conversation. It is as if I can’t make the words travel from my brain to my mouth.
So carrying on any sort of non boring intellectual conversation is going to require at least a minor routine stack. Hopefully in the next few days I will be able to put together something that will really take the girl out of her mundane existence. I figure I will employ some projection. I want my topics to lead somewhere. Not just be run of the mill not getting my ass laid questions. And I can guarantee I will also include some SNL material. For example I think you could really put together a badass routine stack that would lead to more SNL’s. I figure I can make an interchangeable routine stack. So for example when I start the stack say a few minutes in with the girl I can use 3 beginning questions. Those 3 questions will all lead to another line of questioning. By my guess if I can lead the interaction for say 10 minutes she will be hooked and start her own set of questions. Meaning the conversation will all the sudden become natural and 50/50.
I once had a conversation with my parents about game. I didn’t give any details away about what I was doing or anything. I somehow got on the topic of opening a girl so you could show her the true you. Meaning maybe you aren’t…my front door rang so I lost focus. I have no idea where I was going with this since it is now 24 hours later that I have a chance to finish this thought. Ohh well. From what I can gather though I was going to say something along the lines of. By opening and possibly using some routine stack or OPENER “Opinion Openers if you will or along those lines” you are giving yourself the opportunity to shine. Without the use of these the girl might not give you the time of day to display the true you. You are giving her the chance to find you attractive.
Damn this sucks that my train of thought has completely evaporated.
I look at my overall game and know I run short sets because I fear I lack the ability to maintain a long conversation. I fear that all the sudden things will go silent and all the sudden she will be like get the fuck away from me. So my natural tendency has been to build attraction super fast and number close as fast as possible. I have also relied on many of my friends to entertain the girl if I bring her into set. It is so weird that my mental state is currently geared towards this fear. I can think of so many times I have maintained very lengthy conversations with girls. Almost all of which either ended up becoming an SNL or I nailed the girl down the road. That is why I am changing.
I need to sit back and go over the entire time I have been in the game. I need to deconstruct every time I have had success with a girl. I need to try and remember all the sets that went horribly wrong. Or that were going good and I did something stupid and they bombed. All you have to do is put all these puzzle pieces together and figure out the absolute best thing to do. Or at least the one that yields the greatest results.
This is something I have not done in at least 4 maybe 5 months. I haven’t even really thought about game or about changing my style in a long time. Various reasons have led to that but I am now ready to move forward and achieve the greatest results of my life. Deep down I want to prove that someone can really master this game. I just hope I am willing to put in the time and devotion it will take.
Let the games begin…