I have been thinking about this lately but just haven’t gotten around to writing anything about it. I remember when I first got into this and wanted to become a PUA. It wasn’t that I wanted to actually be a Pick Up Artist. I just wanted to break out of my shell and figure out how to meet women. Little did I know this “GAME” is really about so much more than just meeting women. Most who start out never get to see what this is really all about.

If you look around at our society so many people lack it. Most people just figure out how to skate by never really seeing their true potential. I will stop right there on that subject and get back to this one. Since we know most people lack implementation skills in regular everyday life isn’t it safe to say that most people who join the community will also lack this same skill. The answer is unfortunately YES which really sucks because it doesn’t have to be.

I just don’t understand how something like meeting women can be so important to you but then you just crawl up into a little ball and walk away. It’s like the second you realize you have to work at it and put in some effort you just quit. Fuck Dude nothing is easy. This path is certainly not easy I can tell you that. If you aren’t going to invest some time and energy…wait scratch that…if you aren’t going to devote yourself to this then just quit now. You are wasting your time.

But I promise you if you stick with it your life will change. It’s not even about meeting women anymore. It is about keeping them. It is about improving yourself to such a high level that they would be idiots to walk away from you.

Just imagine hearing this from a girl that you gamed: YOU RUINED ME FOR ALL OTHER GUYS!!!

Yes I have managed to turn some of my old FB’s or whatever you want to call them into Friends. Imagine that the guy who never had a girl who was just a friend now has some. How Ironic. Of course I banged them all before so I don’t think that counts in the purest sense.

This post could have been short and sweet but I feel like I am missing something. There must be something else I can mention for this subject. I guess I could tell you how to implement the knowledge and skills you are going to learn. I just don’t think that would really be fair though. I think if you get out there and figure most of this stuff out on your own you will be better off. I am not saying you can’t learn from others or even have someone teach you. Hell I love watching other people in action. It is the best way to learn for me. I just don’t think another speech on how to do this or that is what you need right now.

You need to get out there and TRY!

Grab some openers, chick bait, conversation topics and get out there. Get shot down a few times. Ask for a number. Escalate. Kino. Figure out what all this shit is and how to implement it in the field. You might be scared at first but it gets easier over time. Eventually you won’t think anymore it will just come natural. And then you will figure out exactly what that word means. Natural.

I promise the girls won’t bite…well…

So I have been seeing HBTC for a while now. Last weekend I was thinking man am I setting myself up for a disaster with this relationship. I look around at everyone I know and how they handle themselves in the relationship they are in.

Are they wearing the pants? Or is she?

Now I wasn’t worried about whether I was wearing the pants or not. I was just worried about whether they were pulled up or not. Looking back most of my relationships have consisted of the girl pretty much bowing down to whatever I say. So it is very easy for me to assess that I like to be in control and I like my girl to be very passive.

With HBTC things were quickly shaping up to be completely different than this. So much so in fact that she had even read me like a book. I had heard her mention how I am used to having girls give in to whatever I say blah blah blah. She was right. She said how she wasn’t that kind of girl and that would never happen. Once again she is probably right. And this is one of the reasons I find myself liking this girl.

But what if things continued like this. Will the relationship just suck down the road? Will she walk all over me? Will she control our time together? Will she tell me what to do, how to do it, when to do it, who I can hang out with?

So all of this was rambling through my head last weekend when I was on the way to her house. How can I change this. How can I make certain that things start progressing the way I want them to so I don’t get thrown into this situation. This is the hardest thing to change in a relationship. Once you are here good luck getting out.

So it can be as simple as this. I am sitting in a chair at her counter. She is ohh about 5 feet away from me. Anytime I tell this girl to do something she goes: Don’t tell me what to do. I mean if I said Breathe she would hold her breath.

I say: Come here and give me a kiss.

HBTC: Don’t tell me what to do.

I then say in a stronger tone: Get over here and give me a little kiss.

Now this time she realizes this isn’t a game. I am being serious. I am the man and she will do as I say. Hahahahhah I don’t know any other way to word that. I know that sounds freaking insane but well…

The point is she comes over to me and kisses me. She then mentions something very relevant to this topic and I wish I knew the exact wording. But it was definitely something along the lines of I HATE YOU.

She liked that I had done that. She liked that I put her in her place. And she goes on to mention that she likes that about me. How most guys just do whatever she says. How most guys bend over backwards for her. How most guys don’t last long with her because they don’t have a spine.

Even before this things were going pretty freaking good. But since then it just seems different. I can’t say for sure it was because of this. I don’t really know. But it is like I gained a little more control.

I guess I should start by saying Happy New Year. I hate when I go a while without writing. I will use the holidays as an excuse.

Yes all good things must come to an end.

I don’t know if I ever mentioned this but for about 2 months I had an awesome set up. I had something that over the course of my adult life I can only think of one friend who had it like this. I had a neighbor who was a huge freak and only 2 houses down. Yeah I lucked out in the neighbor department.

It would go like this. Either I would call her or she would call me. A few minutes later she was at my front door. She would come over in almost no clothing. So picture this. I live in a neighborhood where the average homeowner is at least 55-60. Then you have this 20 year old girl traipsing around the neighborhood wearing little more than the shortest shorts on earth and maybe some article of clothing covering her torso. And don’t even think for a second she had a bra or panties on. Nah she went commando.

The front door would open and more times than not there were no words spoken. It was just straight into some freaky buck wild sex. Then like clockwork she was off back on the way to her house. The other half of the time she would chill out and annoy me for half the night. Overall I will take the trade any day of the week.

So two weeks ago today I send her a standard booty call text only this time something strange happens. The return text says:

I can’t do that anymore.

WHAT…why the fuck not. I am trying to figure this out in my head and then I quickly get to the bottom of it. She has started seeing a guy who she likes and feels like it would be wrong of her to continue seeing me. I mean fucking my brains out.

I wish I could say I am as equally a good person as she is. The truth is I have been seeing a girl for a time period as well. I like her quite a bit. But I lacked the compassion to show her the same respect. I had no problem fucking neighbor girl while I was seeing this girl. I would probably still fuck neighbor girl if the opportunity presented itself. Let’s hope these words don’t bite me in the ass.

I feel that I should chronicle most things that happen with HBToughCookie. For one it allows me to look back on it and figure out how things progressed. And secondly it is amazing how quick you forget all the small details. Even mundane aspects of your life will be interesting to read a year from now. Because they are you.

After almost two weeks of not hanging out with HBTC we finally got together on the 4th of this month. We went to the Mavericks game and just like clockwork we were right back into each other. It was as if that two weeks we didn’t see each other never existed. One thing that I think really helps us is we both like to get a little tipsy. I think we both just let our inhibitions go and this really helps out in the beginning. I know this for a fact now that I am writing about this 2 weeks later.

At one point just after we ordered drinks she is scooping out some of the ice into a trash can. She was complaining how the bartender added so much ice. She is doing this in front of 4 huge guys. These guys all take notice and start saying shit to her. I am making shit up like yeah she is pouring all the booze out so I don’t take advantage of her later blah blah. I do this so maybe the guys will STFU. But they don’t. They just keep saying stupid shit about the ice when all the sudden she turns to the group and goes: Is my ice really that fucking interesting to you? Ohh man she shut up these 4 huge dudes. I couldn’t help but turn around and just start busting out laughing. While I am laughing I purposely turn around so they see me laughing and they look at me like they want to kill me. We walk 5 feet over and continue watching the game. I like this chick even more after she made this statement.

During the entire game I had been talking about throwing her up against the wall at the game. Just any wall it didn’t matter. I guess she wasn’t drunk enough and didn’t want to get thrown out. Finally the game was over and when we got outside I threw her up against the wall of the arena and we start making out. We get some hoots and hollars from various people. From here things heated up in the parking garage when we got into the car.

We get back to her house she cooks me some food and I get a text saying we should come up to Kinki’s. This sounds good so we head out and up there to meet some friends. I couldn’t hear jack shit in Kinki and it is the main reason I hate that place. At some point I get a text from HBTC: Hey meet me in the bathroom. Please tell me you have a C in your wallet. I try to bum a C but no one will give me one(HOMOS). I grab her hand and pull her to the guys bathroom. Just as I walk in she lets go and bails. I give her shit about this later and we jet out of the venue. I throw her on top of some Volkswagen as we leave only to have her do the same thing to me.

We head home and can’t find a parking spot anywhere in her complex. She decides to part in front of someone’s garage and this leads to us bickering back and forth. We get upstairs I change and lay on the couch. I am doing everything I can to stay awake so I can fuck her silly. I am literally holding my eye lids open while she is doing something in her room. She makes her way back to the kitchen so I get up and go up to her. She pushes me away. And when I say this I mean she shoves me away as hard as she can. Now this is a little odd so I push the subject. She says I choked her. WTF! This freaks me out especially since I was super drunk. I say whoah if I choked you I am outta here. I grab my clothes and head down to my car. MISTAKE! I should have passed out on her couch instead. I get down to my car and know there is no way I am driving. So yep I will be sleeping here tonight in my uncomfortable car. I try to work my way back up to her place via text but it is a no go.

The next day I am extremely pissed and very worried that things are over with us. I know I like this girl and don’t want that to be the case.

I sent her a text the next day.

I text her something like:

Miss First/Last Name: I would like to chat are you available to accept my call.

Two hours later she says: Yes

Before this I am sweating it pretty bad. I am hungover and pissed. I see the text and all the sudden feel good.

I start playing pool and wait it out 15 minutes before I call. She answers I just do the normal cordial chat and then say something so yeah about last night. I clearly crossed some boundaries. I then say so can you tell me what I did so I don’t act like a douche again. She then goes I have no idea what you did I feel like a douche.

Hahhahahahahahahahahha

We both start laughing and everything is GOLDEN!

If I had a crystal ball here is how I would predict the future with this girl.

We are both going to get drunk a lot together and have some crazy ass fights. I can just see that coming now.

Alright now that I got that out of the way. Hell it should have been a post by itself but ohh well. Back to the subject at hand. Relationships just happen. I want to touch on this because I think a lot of guys mess up in this regard.

So you meet a girl. And let’s just say you want to fuck her. You will act a certain way. But let’s say you actually want to date her. You will act a certain way which is surely different than if you just wanted to fuck her. But wait a minute. Why? Well there are some very easy answers like you don’t want to set a frame with a Fuck Buddy that you like her. Sure I completely agree with you on this one. But aren’t you worried that if you set a frame with a girl you want a relationship with that you like her you might scare her off? Yes that is certainly a possibility. So instead of worrying how to act with this girl or that girl why not just act the same way with all of them? And then after a while of seeing relationship quality girl you can make Statements of Interest when you know they will be well received.

I am not sure why more guys don’t do this. It allows you to stay in control of the interaction.

Think of it as a negotiation. Someone wants to sell you something. You want to buy something. Whoever says a price first loses. Wait for the other person to announce a price. This gives you leverage. Think of relationships the same way. If you wait for her to announce her attentions first you have the upper hand.

But what if she never makes her intentions known? Alright so maybe this takes a little calibration on your end. But common sense should allow you to see the signs even if she doesn’t utter the words. For example I was invited over to Dinner. She wanted to cook me dinner. What else could that possibly mean? Do you think that means ohh come over so I can fuck you? Nope. That means I like you I want to cook dinner and spend time with you. Very Simple. And she probably wants to fuck too but not in terms of a fuck buddy.

Something happened this weekend that has taken at least a year. I spent both Friday and Saturday night with the same girl. We will call this girl HB:ToughCookie. This is something I purposely avoided the entire year. The weekend is meant for Sarging and meeting new women.

Friday night I had intended on going out with the boys but she called and invited me to her friend’s Birthday party. I figured we would end up together at the end of the night anyways but I wanted to join her. Not to mention very little seemed to be going on Friday night. It was a pretty easy choice. We ended up at Finn and it was probably the worst I had ever seen it. So I made the right choice.

I had only nailed this girl one time before and I must say it was only so-so. I was a little worried she was bad in bed and possibly prude at that. I’m not saying I am a great lover or anything in fact that first time was equally my fault for the overall performance. It was lacking from both parties. I knew I needed to nail this girl again and it needed to be good. The first time we were both completely sober and I think inhibitions were to blame. This night we were both pretty much wasted. Can you say Fuck Fest 2008?? Yeah it was pretty badass (Thank God). Be afraid to use my pool table.

Saturday Night we have somewhat of a low key evening. Lion invites us to join him and his girl. Picture Perfect and some girl Lion’s girl was hooking him up with were joining us as well. We head over and the evening is pretty boring. I find myself complaining a shit load when we are at the Londoner. Before we leave Lion’s place though something sort of flattering happens. Two of the girls there both compliment HBToughCookie. Ohh your hair is so nice. You are so beautiful. Both of the girls say this at different times. It’s kind of a good feeling I must say.

My boredom at the Londoner quickly leads to me turning into major asshole. There was some girl who was part of our group. I think she was Filipino and had a very nice body. Her face was marginal but the body was superb. Anyways so she is sitting at this table with everyone else. I walk up and sit directly across from her. I instantly neg her on her diamonds. Bam the entire group is just gawking at me now. But I don’t stop. I continue on and on and on. I mean yeah it was a little over the top and I apologized to Lion and his girl later about it. I don’t know why I did it. I mean to complete strangers it is one thing. But to someone that is part of the group you are with…well that is just poor etiquette.

I have noticed I do this a lot lately. For the most part it is harmless and with strangers at a bar that I will never see again. I am trying to figure out why I turn into asshole me though. Sure the booze play a part and probably boredom. Every time I do it I feel bad the next day. It is as if I lose some of my conscience when I am drunk.

We eventually take a cab home and bam just as predicted we get into a fight. This one was no where near as bad as the one I ended up sleeping in my car. But to make a long story short she leaves at around 2:00 AM. I somehow pissed her off. I believe it came when she asked me to go get her bag out of her car. And I said you should blow me first. There is a point where you can be beta. This is one of those times. Think about it. I got get the bag from the car. I come back inside and she changes. We get into bed. Ummm yeah self explanatory. Instead I act like a dick and she leaves. DUMB!!!